Choose your own adventure

a glimpse into my life domestic violence finding joy free trainings love Feb 01, 2022

Remember those choose your own adventure stories from when you were a kid?

How if you wanted the hero of the story to be brave you'd turn to page 26 and if you wanted the hero to play it safe you'd turn to page 40? Life's kinda like that.

I see you. I know you long for more meaning and connection, but find yourself playing Candy Crush for hours instead of doing something that lights you up. Or sometimes, you turn to food to feel better.

You’re tired after the long day, the kids just went to their rooms and you need something to relax. Even talking to someone seems hard after the day you had.

You just need to unplug for 15 minutes. 15 minutes turns into the whole evening while you sit next to your person, have something mindless on TV, and try not to think. When that gets boring, you scroll your social media just to see what’s happening. 

 

No judgment. I’ve been there. How do you think I know how you’re spending your evening?

 

You know what else I know? How it eats at you, and how mean you are to yourself when you talk to yourself about why you aren’t doing other things. How you feel a little lonely even though you are surrounded by people. And how you long for something …. More.

 

I want to show you another way. A way to feel joy, happiness, laugh more, and love more with less stress. 

 

This is a choose your own adventure moment and you have four choices.

You get to choose. There’s no judgment and no such thing as a wrong choice. 

 

  1. Do nothing. Change nothing. Make peace with the way things are now. 
  2. Make one small pivot towards joy and get unstuck. Take 20 minutes now to change the way you think and make decisions with a free video course you can listen to or watch. LINK HERE
  3. Take a leap of faith and join me in a free Masterclass “Surviving to Thriving: 5 pillars for working moms to unlock joy”. Choose your preferred date and reserve your seat here. There will be a replay available if you can't attend live.
  4. Do 2 AND 3 for a turbocharged boost towards joy.

 

There is no such thing as a wrong choice. I chose #1 for years. YEARS. Do nothing. Change nothing.

 

I stayed in an abusive marriage for 14 years. By the time I finally left I had PTSD from more than a decade of abuse, walking on pins and needles, turning myself into a pretzel, and settling for WAY less than I deserved. That was in 2007.  

In 2007 I made a pivot towards joy when I left that abusive marriage. I was scared and didn’t know what I was doing. It was messy. Imperfect. I made mistakes. But I kept leaning in.

 

I took leap of faith after leap of faith.

 

My friend drove me to a shelter with my daughter and 2 suitcases. Another friend gave me a car to use, I lived in that domestic violence shelter for a couple of months, then I moved in with my parents at the age of 35. 

 

I was ready to move out of my parent's house 6 months later and took another leap of faith and rented a house even though everything I owned outside of 2 suitcases was tied up in my divorce. My friends swooped in and totally furnished the house. Furniture, washer and dryer, lawnmower, clothes, beds, bedding, linens, dishes, pots and pans. Everything I needed appeared. It was beyond my wildest imagination and more than I could have dreamed for. 

 

I healed and took small pivot after small pivot towards joy. That led me to new jobs, new people, a new house, a new business, and more than 14 years of living happily in Boise.

 

I just took another leap of faith. I moved to Portland after wanting to live here my whole life. Three weeks before I moved, I was moving to Madison, Wisconsin. 

 

I took a leap of faith - followed the joy - turned the moving truck a different direction, rented a room at an Extended Stay and moved to Portland on August 8. We closed on our new home on August 23. That’s right… in one of the most competitive and expensive markets in the United States I bought a house and it was almost effortless. 

 

I’m not bragging. I’m telling you, when you pivot towards joy and use joy as your barometer, miracles happen. 

 

The choice is yours. What’s it gonna be?

 

  1. Do nothing. Change nothing. Make peace with the way things are now. 
  2. Make one small pivot towards joy and get unstuck. Take 20 minutes now to change the way you think and make decisions with a free video course you can listen to or watch. LINK HERE
  3. Take a leap of faith and join me in a free Masterclass “Surviving to Thriving: 5 pillars for working moms to unlock joy”. Choose your preferred date and reserve your seat here. There will be a replay available if you can't attend live.
  4. Do 2 AND 3 for a turbocharged boost towards joy.

 

No matter what you choose, that’s the right choice for you now. Trust that. 

 

Me? I choose expansion. Joy. Freedom. Happiness. Love. Connection. Meaning and purpose. Abundance. I love you and think you deserve that, too.

 

All my love,

Brenda 

Xoxo