Those of us with deep empathy, the ones who other people say are nice....

We have one set of standards that we hold for ourselves that we completely throw out when it comes to certain people. 

For example (this came up 5 times this week between private clients and The Spiritual CEO so it's a thing)... you set boundaries around your time. You're really good at it.

But when your kid calls... no matter what you're doing... you drop everything and treat it with the same urgency as a 911 operator. But the thing is.... it's NOT an emergency. They are upset about something and it FEELS like an emergency. To them. And so... vicariously... you also treat it like an emergency. Then the call ends, they feel better and you feel like a bag of balls.

Or maybe it's not your kid, but it's the family text chat that you feel like you have to make sure you have consistency. You "thumb up" one person's text but then "heart" another's... so then you go back and change the "thumb up" so they don't think you have favorites. 

I get it. I've DONE it.

Here's what I want you to know... 

Anything you do that has a preface of... 

• I want them to feel...
• I don't want them to feel...
• I don't want them to think...
• I want them to know...

And this part is EVEN sneakier...

• **I** want to be the one who helps
• **I** want to be the one to solve the problem
• **I** want to be the one they call

People like us - the empaths, the helpers - don't like admitting that but the truth is... when we are in ANY of these energies...it's not clean.  Why? The helping ISN'T about the other person, it's about you.

And THAT? It is subtly shrinking you and leaking your energy.

When we do things because we want to be the rescuer or we want to manage what people feel or think, we aren't doing things because WE want to. It's about managing other people's expectations and emotions. 

And if you're doing that... I can say with certainty after working with hundreds of clients over the past 11 years... you are not fully allowing yourself to shine. 

I see this so often that I decided to do something about it. I created a free masterclass called "How to stop apologizing for your next level". 

I'll be sharing the moment most women (and empathic men) give away their power without realizing it. I'll share part of the POWER framework that I use in the Spiritual CEO membership, with private clients and at retreats.

When you register by March 25... I'm going to give you two audio trainings on navigating relationships during and after an identity change. But you HAVE to register by March 25 to get those two trainings. 

Why would I do that? Because I know you. 

You are curious right now and think this sounds interesting. But it's a ways a way so you'll probably see what content you can consume right now... the podcast, the free training, the summit... becuase you keep trying to find the "easy button" or the short cut. You'll just schedule another reading or astrology session with someone, trying to change the colors on your website or the font on your logo or you log into substack for the 300th time to see if anyone knew read your article instead of writing the new one, when you and I both know.... that's not moving the needle. But because it's taking all your time you're telling yourself you're doing something about it. 

And that? It's keeping you stuck. You aren't getting any real traction because you just keep consuming content as a way to avoid DOING something.

I know this because like attracts like.... and this is EXACTLY what I do before a big shift. So I know that's what YOU are doing right now... 

But the moment I commit to DOING something - things change. So I want to offer you the same thing. 

Now I don't really care if you register for this or not. If it's not for you... great. Don't register. But if IS.... get yourself signed up. 

Register here. https://www.brendawinkle.com/nextlevel  

XOXO,

Brenda