What if you’re not actually indecisive? What if you’re taking in so much information that you can’t hear yourself anymore? 

For empaths, making a decision can mean processing far more than the decision itself. There’s what you want - and then there’s someone else’s disappointment, your partner’s opinion, your family’s expectations, another reading, another podcast, another Reddit thread, another certification, and one more attempt to get absolutely certain before you move.

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda shares how she knew as early as 2000 that teaching was no longer sustainable for her... and then spent 22 more years finding her way out. She explores what happened when she allowed other people’s opinions about her career to become more valuable information than her own lived experience.  

You’ll learn three ways to begin separating what you actually know from all the additional information you’re processing:

1. Capture what you know before you poll the room.
2. Stop automatically treating someone else’s reaction as information about your decision.
3. Notice when “I need more information” may actually mean “I want certainty.”

Brenda also shares a client story about what changed when one woman developed enough nervous-system capacity to stop organizing her choices around other people’s reactions, and what Brenda is noticing among people who repeatedly seek another reading or answer even after they’ve already received one.    

Because self-trust doesn’t mean knowing the right answer every time.

It means trusting yourself to respond to what happens after you choose.  

✨ YES TO ME happens live September 15 from 6–8 PM Pacific. Bring the decision, relationship, boundary, opportunity, change, or desire you’ve been circling. You don’t need to arrive knowing your answer. You can come fully in the wobble. Details coming soon.

✨ Enrollment for POWER: Self-Trust for Empaths opens in September. The next cohort begins September 29. https://www.brendawinkle.com/power 

Join us in the Empowered Empath Collective - https://www.brendawinkle.com/membership 

Reflection questions from this episode:

• What did I think before I asked everyone else?
• Whose reaction am I trying to prevent or manage?
• What information do I genuinely still need—and what am I collecting because I want certainty?
• What do I know today?
• What is one honest next step?  

Download your free energy audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit 

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