These 5 signs mena your empathy might be running your life

You can set a boundary. But the second someone gets disappointed, you start rolling it back.

You make sure everybody's needs are met—including the dogs—while your own dinner becomes an orange and a cheese stick.

And you'll fight fiercely when someone else is treated unfairly. But when the injustice affects YOU? Suddenly you're worried about sounding selfish, greedy, or difficult.

Sound familiar?

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle explores five signs your empathy may be running your life—and why the answer isn't to become less sensitive or less compassionate.

As a trauma-informed somatic coach, breathwork facilitator, and psychic medium, Brenda works with highly empathic women who are successful, capable, and deeply caring, yet struggle to give themselves the same consideration they naturally give everyone else.

This conversation explores how empathy can become tangled with guilt, fear of disconnection, and self-abandonment—and how to begin recognizing those patterns without judging yourself.

In this episode, we're exploring five signs your empathy may be running your life:

1. You can set a boundary, but holding it feels like risking connection.
2. Everyone gets taken care of - except you.
3. You'll fight for someone else's rights but struggle to defend your own.
4. You understand why someone hurt you so well that you minimize your own hurt.
5. You feel guilty enjoying your life when someone else is struggling.

• Recognize yourself in one - or all five?

  I'm not just naming these patterns. I'm sharing the questions I use with my coaching clients to help them understand what's happening, recognize where they're abandoning themselves, and begin making choices that include their own needs.

  Because the answer isn't to become less empathic.

  Your empathy has to include YOU.

Your next step: The free Energy Audit

If you're recognizing these patterns in your own life, start by looking at where your energy is going.

Download Brenda's free Energy Audit:

https://BrendaWinkle.com/audit

And if you'd like personalized support changing these patterns, explore private coaching with Brenda here: https://www.brendawinkle.com/coaching 

Your empathy has to include YOU.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of childhood trauma, abuse, and the impact of harmful relationships.

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