You know what you think. At least…you thought you did. Then you text three friends. Ask your coach. Google it. Check Reddit. Pull another card. Look for a sign.

And somehow, after gathering all that information, you're less clear than when you started.

What if you aren't always asking because you don't know?

What if sometimes you're asking because knowing means becoming the person responsible for the choice?

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda explores the difference between seeking perspective and seeking permission - especially for empathic women who are highly attuned to other people's feelings, preferences and reactions.

Because asking for advice isn't a self-trust failure.

Other people have expertise, wisdom, and perspectives you may genuinely need.

The question is:

What job are you asking their answer to do?

Are you gathering useful information?

Or are you hoping someone else's certainty will make you feel safer about your own choice?

Brenda shares her own experience of looking for external validation around decisions she already felt internally clear about, along with a behavioral shift POWER participant Kendra D. noticed: less asking for opinions and confirmation from others and less need to justify or explain her choices.

In this episode:

• Why asking for advice isn't the same thing as outsourcing a decision
• How collecting perspectives can feel responsible when you're highly attuned to other people
• Why external validation can sometimes make a decision muddier instead of clearer
• The difference between perspective and permission
• How other people's feelings can begin carrying too much weight in your choices
• What self-trust looks like behaviorally
• Why good coaching shouldn't make you dependent on your coach
• One simple practice to use before asking someone else what they think

You don't have to stop asking for support.

You simply get to hear yourself first.

POWER: Self-Trust for Empaths

POWER isn't about replacing everyone else's answers with Brenda's.

It's about developing your own discernment.

The first six weeks establish the foundation, followed by a full year of coaching, practice and integration support, including three live POWER cohorts, somatic work, breathwork, community, lifetime curriculum and replays, and a private 1:1 session during your first cohort.

The Fall cohort begins September 29.

Enrollment closes September 28.

Learn more at https://www.brendawinkle.com/power 

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