You can make high-stakes decisions at work, lead a team, run a business, and navigate complicated situations.

But when it comes to that one relationship, career move, or deeply desired outcome?

Suddenly you're checking messages, asking for reassurance, searching for signs, and wondering whether the universe is telling you to keep waiting.

What if the thing you're calling intuition is actually what you desperately want to be true?

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, psychic medium and trauma-informed somatic coach Brenda Winkle explores the difference between intuition, desire, projection, and fear - and why emotionally intelligent, high-achieving women sometimes overlook patterns that are right in front of them.

Brenda shares examples from dating, business, and career transitions, including why one encouraging moment doesn't erase weeks of inconsistency.

She also shares a deeply personal story about recognizing an abusive marriage, seeking professional support, and how examining repeated patterns helped her understand what she couldn't see clearly while living inside the situation.

In this episode, you'll explore:

• Why a powerful romantic connection doesn't necessarily mean a relationship is right for you. And why wanting out of your 9-5 might mean you need to take different actions than you're taking. You'll be able to apply this to whatever you want.

• How intense desire can masquerade as intuitive certainty.

• The difference between noticing a synchronicity and overlooking someone's actual behavior or a situation.

• Why tracking repeated experiences can reveal patterns you miss in the moment.

• How projection can influence the way you interpret other people's experiences.

• Why someone's disappointment doesn't automatically mean your decision was wrong.

• How to separate what happened, what you felt, and what you hoped it meant.

• Why intuition and practical action belong together.

Five questions to help you practice discernment:

1. What am I actually noticing?

2. What do I want to be true?

3. What patterns are repeating?

4. Could I be projecting something from my own experience?

5. What would I choose if I didn't need reassurance, permission, or a guaranteed outcome?

Your free resources

28 Days to Discover Your Intuition

Spend just 1–5 minutes a day noticing your impressions, emotional states, and repeating patterns.

https://brendawinkle.com/intuition

Emotional Energy Audit

Explore where your emotional energy is going and where you may be carrying responsibility that isn't yours.

https://brendawinkle.com/audit

Support & Resources

If something in Brenda's story feels familiar, you don't have to figure everything out on your own or wait until you're certain about what you're experiencing to ask for support.

National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.)

Confidential support, information, and safety-planning resources.

Website: https://www.thehotline.org

Phone: 800-799-SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788

National Domestic Violence Hotline — Safety Planning

Information about creating a personalized safety plan.

https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/

A note about Brenda's personal story: Brenda shares how she documented interactions to better understand her own experience. This describes what she did at the time, is it in no way a recommendation to use the same method. If you're in an unsafe relationship, individualized guidance from a qualified domestic violence professional can help you consider your options safely.

Remember: You can believe in intuition, psychic gifts, and meaningful synchronicities without ignoring the reality of how you're being treated.

Follow Your Yes Filled Life and share this episode with a woman who could use a little more trust in her own discernment.

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