198. Your work isn’t “cute”—it’s transformational. In this episode, I share how raising your standards changes everything: your business, your relationships, and your energy. Learn the difference between standards and expectations, why nervous system work makes change sustainable, and how to upgrade your life with confidence.

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Episode Overview

Sometimes people treat your healing work—or even your leadership—as something “cute,” a one-off spa-day vibe, or optional. The truth? Your work is transformational. The shift happens when you raise your standards.

In this episode, I share personal stories (yes, even about coffee and peanut butter!) to show how raising standards changes everything—from your business, to your relationships, to your own sense of ease.

This isn’t about being perfect or bougie (though I own that too). It’s about choosing what actually supports you—so you can lead with freedom, clarity, and joy.

What You’ll Learn

• The difference between standards (what you set for yourself) and expectations (what you place on others)

• Why people undervaluing your work is often a reflection of your own standards

• How nervous system capacity can block or support your ability to raise standards

• Practical ways to stop offering one-off sessions and create containers for real transformation

• Why reciprocity and drama-free relationships are part of your energetic upgrade

Links & Resources

• Free Energy Audit → brendawinkle.com/audit 

• Enroll in Your Yes Filled Life → brendawinkle.com/youryesfilledlife 

About Brenda

I’m Brenda Winkle, Intuitive Leadership Coach, Somatic Guide, and Psychic Medium for high-achieving, intuitive women who want more freedom, ease, and energy. Known as the “Boundary Queen,” I help leaders move into aligned action without second-guessing, guiding them to lead with clarity and confidence rooted in love.

Three Things You Can Do Right Now

1. Choose one area of your life to upgrade (coffee, clothing, friendships—start small).

2. Ask yourself: Is this my standard or someone else’s expectation?

3. Replace one one-off offer with a bundled or packaged option.

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Keywords

raising standards, energetic sovereignty, leadership upgrade, nervous system, reciprocity, boundaries, spiritual business