High-achieving, intuitive leaders don’t lack drive—they lack safety to let things be easy. In this episode, Brenda unpacks why ease can feel unsafe in a nervous system wired for hustle, how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn in real time, and simple practices to reconnect with your intuition and spiritual team (guides, angels, ancestors). You’ll learn how to retrain your body so ease becomes your baseline—and why that makes you clearer, calmer, and more magnetic in leadership, business, and life.

Resources & Links

• Download the free Energy Audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit 

• Join The Regulated Entrepreneur (monthly breathwork, coaching, community): https://www.brendawinkle.com/regulatedentrepreneur 

• Apply for The Clarity Retreat (in-person + virtual option): https://www.brendawinkle.com/resetretreat  

• Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@youryesfilledlife  

Timestamps

• 00:00 Welcome + what this show is about (energetic leadership, intuition, embodiment)

• 01:16 Today’s big idea: ease as a strategy—not a reward you “earn” later

• 02:34 The “I’ll rest when…” loop and why it keeps you in burnout cycles

• 03:38 Why your body equates hard work with worth (cultural + personal conditioning)

• 05:05 Interviews insight: achievers chase the gold star; ease feels unsafe

• 06:37 Overwork, collapse, and the “chaos = control” pattern

• 07:46 When slowing down triggers panic—safety vs. productivity

• 08:52 Personal story: Fisher, your mom, and the generational hustle imprint

• 13:58 Shadow of high achievement: hustling for worth + visibility fears

• 16:06 “If I stop, I’ll lose everything” — naming the core fear

• 18:01 Kitchen moment of truth: working hard to feel safe, not fulfilled

• 19:21 Part 2: Spotting nervous-system activation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn)

• 20:34 What happens in the body (vagus nerve, rest/repair vs. survival)

• 21:51 Fight = urgency; Flight = over-research; Freeze = fog; Fawn = over-yes

• 22:50 First-aid for activation: pause, name it, touch point, long exhale

• 24:59 Breath pattern (2-1-8) to reduce anxiety + calm the system

• 26:21 Why you can’t hear intuition/guides when stressed—and how to reconnect

• 26:57 Working with your Team of Light (guides/angels/ancestors): your daily practice

• 27:31 Your morning ritual: meditation + “highest truth and compassion” prayer

• 29:42 Following nudges vs. calendar; neutrality as the signal of true guidance

• 34:06 Intuition litmus: guidance feels calm/neutral; urgency = mind/ego

• 36:36 Client story: saying no to misaligned speaking gigs → ease + income

• 39:04 Stop comparing your Chapter 3 to someone else’s Chapter 20

• 40:13 No fantasy marketing: skill-building takes time (and gets to be easier)

• 41:27 Beware NLP-style hype; sustainable growth over instant fixes

• 43:53 Micro-prompt: “What if this could be so easy—what would I do?”

• 45:03 Ease ≠ lazy; regulated presence = magnetism

• 46:12 Somatic affirmation: “It gets to be easy. I am safe in ease.”

• 47:24 Invitations + next steps (membership + retreat)

Keywords: nervous system regulation, leadership, intuition, somatic coaching, spiritual guides, breathwork for anxiety, ease over hustle, high-achieving women, empath leaders, business clarity