The power of the pauseMay 15, 2022
I met Becca Rae Eagle through a program of Cathy Heller’s. We quickly realized that we have a lot in common and I invited her to join me on the podcast. I really wanted you to hear from her.
Becca Rae Eagle is committed to helping women heal one pause at a time. Her memoir is coming out in fall of 2022! Her podcast, Beckoning Joy, launched in a min-cast in April 2022.
Finding joy is her new quest. Becca tells us the more joy we have in our energy, the more we can show up authentically to better love others and ourselves.
You KNOW how I feel about the importance of joy. I realize that there are times and seasons when it can feel tough to feel joy. That’s the whole reason I started the podcast - I want to normalize finding joy through the ups and downs of daily life.
My own path to finding joy revealed itself to me when I started to take better care of myself. Self-care. Deep self-care. More than a pedicure or a massage but a willingness to ask myself what I need, to spend time preparing food for myself, to schedule and prioritize rest. The more I did that, the more accessible joy felt.
Becca agrees. In fact, she took it one step further! And I LOVED this!!
Becca says, “Self care is an investment in the collective - humanity. It creates a well of joy for us to tap into when we take good care of ourselves. It’s the most loving thing we can do for not only ourselves, but the people in our lives.”
Becca teaches us to connect with the calm in yourself before we even start our busy day. As a human, it’s ok to have a series of emotions in response to our life events. Being still and being calm can help us better understand how to show up for ourselves. Becca teaches us to schedule things everyday to meet yourself where you are is essential. Becca reminds us that self care is inquiry: Ask yourself what you need rather than what society needs FROM you.
This conversation with Becca was a good reminder for me. Not everything is a 911 emergency. The vast majority of things we think we have to respond to right away are not urgent.
Take a moment to think about “how do I want to show up right now?”, “how do I want this experience to go?” Or “How do I want to respond?” Can be the difference between reacting and having to apologize for being hasty or lashing out and the difference between being peaceful in your response.
Becca says that if you aren’t taking pauses for yourself you can also respond from places that aren’t true to you and make agreements that don’t even align with who you are and those agreements can last for years.
We also talked about the the somatic or body experiences we have. Your body is giving you clues. Is there neck tension? A headache? A belly ache? There’s information there. Even asking what it’s about can be helpful.
One great way to take a pause is through meditation. I have a free audio meditation just for you! Grab it at www.brendawinkle.com/feel-better.
Here’s how you can find Becca.